to deal with. rachel was killed in the columbine high school mass cure. darryl, as a parent, all i can think of today is these parents out buying christmas gifts. kids at this age excited about santa claus and christmas is it coming, and now planning a funeral and no christmas or birthdays, how do you recover? you have been through this. >>> well, there is nothing you can tell a parent that lost the child. they need their friends and family. in our case, we made choices. we made the choice not to be angry and better but to celebrate rachel's life and today we have the largest school training programs and reach three million students a year with rachel's challenge and train over 300,000 children and school 500 suicides prevented. a lot of the answers are long term. they are not just a knee jerk reaction or more laws and regulations . but we have to be a kinder nation and take time to listen to one another and be role models in these kids. and you are active and in your healing, am i interperting it right. my son craig was in the library and he came within a split second of being killed.